The great rock band The Eagles once wrote a song that featured the line ‘you can’t hide your lying eyes’. The truth of the matter is that in every long term relationship people will go through changes – those changes can either bring them closer together or drive them apart – sometimes to the extent that one person in the relationship seeks comfort – and sex outside of the boundaries of that committed relationship. But just as those lying eyes cannot be hidden, the man who has an affair will trip himself up sooner or later.
But sometimes a woman’s love for the other makes us blind to the fact that he might be straying. However, there are some warning signs that should not be ignored. The sooner you confront the situation the better it will be for your mental and emotional health.
If you are worried that he is cheating on you here are some behaviors that you should be on the lookout for.
1. He changes his daily routine.
When you have been in a long term relationship you have in-depth knowledge about how your partner acts and reacts to situations. Changes in that behavior can be an early warning sign of infidelity.
2. Mood swings become a problem.
If your man seems more argumentative than usual and after a disagreement says that he needs some ‘alone time’ – this happens on a regular basis – it may not be stress, that time could be used for liaising with another woman.
3. His memory seems to be an issue.
It is human nature to try and make sense of the world and timeframes. Unless your significant other is an accomplished liar he is going to trip himself up. If he does have a mistress and he is spending significant amounts of time with her his experiences of you and her are going to almost inevitably begin to blur. If he cannot explain where he was at a particular time – or provides a different excuse – you may be seeing a man who is having an affair.
4. His spending habits change.
Keep an eye on joint accounts and look out for large cash withdrawals. Even though a man can attempt to keep his affair a secret, the money for those gifts, time away or even a hotel room have to be paid in some way.
there are numerous other signs of an affair – but the golden rule is to keep an eye out for behavioral changes. Confront him sooner rather than later and free yourself of a potentially toxic relationship.